Is it in you?: Part of your character OR just a role you play?

Over time, I have matured and started to see things differently than I have in the past. I am truly understanding I Corinthians 13:11 "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put all childish ways behind me." This process definitely did not happen overnight. First of all, I had to see the need for a change. I had to see the faults within and want to correct them. Just as Steve Harvey's movie, "Act like a lady, Think like a man,"stated, the problem with pretending to do better is the fact that at some point, we actually have to put it into action. It has to become our character, rather than just a role we play. All actors can memorize scripts and even put emotion into their performance, but, eventually the "real" person surfaces. "Can an Ethiopian change his skin or the leopard its spots? Neither can you do good who are accustomed to doing evil." (Jeremiah 13:33). When entering relationships, it takes "time" to get to know a person, and even longer if they're trying to impress us. My dad has always told me to never read too much into how a person treats me, but pay more attention to how they treat others. They will show you who they really are. I have been blessed to find someone whose character matches mine. I took my father's advice and looked more into how she treated her friends, and even how she treated strangers. In Hebrews 13:2 the Bible tells us, "Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it." Only those of us whose character preempts us to show genuine kindness will pass this test administered by God. Others will only do so when it is convenient, or when they can gain something in return. So, Is it in you?